Comments on: Mr. Nasty

By: Jen

Jen — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 22:40:24 +0000

You must have written this post just for me. I had a similar experience this past week and I had the added pressure of having to approach the person the next day. Anyway, you gave words to that crummy feeling I had when I finally had enough of her poison and hung up on her, and somehow, you reinforced why my calling her back had to be done….because I sure would have rather not put myself out there.

By: Dana

Dana — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 14:03:12 +0000

That part of the movie is my favorite, because I can never stand up for myself and say the things I want to say to certain people in my life, because I know it would make me feel bad later. It’s a double-edged sword for me. If I keep my mouth shut, I feel like I’m being walked on. If I say what I think, I feel like I may perhaps hurt the person’s feelings.

I haven’t quite mastered the civil way to stick up for myself.

I hope that parent had a chance to calm down and realize all the GOOD THINGS you do for his kid and so many others. And if I didn’t, I’ll so kick his ass. Because that’s the kind of mood I’m in today. I don’t know if that’s good or bad. Ugh.

-hugs, Mocha!!!

Love,
Dana

By: Tricia

Tricia — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 04:09:49 +0000

Is it so bad that my most prevalent thought is ‘good for you for giving him shit back’.

Maybe not the “best’ or “healthiest” but puking is a necessary evil sometimes, get rid of the toxins.

By: tanilan

tanilan — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 17:52:58 +0000

You are STILL the greatest educator in the world.

By: Tom

Tom — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 04:22:54 +0000

I don’t know how many times I’ve lost my cool and spewed nastiness at someone that really deserved it. And I don’t recall ever feeling good about it afterwards. I know I feel like kicking myself whenever it happens.

By: Daisy

Daisy — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 22:36:52 +0000

Somehow, I think the calm, cool Mocha wouldn’t have gotten through to this one, either. Don’t beat yourself up for being human.

By: Shash

Shash — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 04:12:17 +0000

I am always amazed at the difference in definitions that parents have when it comes to “supporting” their children.

I think it speaks volumes that you see an opportunity in this moment to “do better next time”. Many others would be mired down in the yelling and the indignation of it all, and you hope to do better the next time this happens; with whomever it may be.

This…this is why I love you so.

Shash

By: Rigel

Rigel — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 04:07:22 +0000

Sometimes parents elect to dump their frustration and anger at their inability to discipline and parent their child on the teachers and administrators who give up so much to educate their children. I’m proud of the fact that you admit that you lost it with that parent. It’s not your fault that parent chewed you a new one. I echo RC’s comment. We learn from our negative experiences.

On a test, I am more likely to learn from the questions I answered incorrectly. It’s because of that fact that we “choose to grow” that we learn to do better the next time.

It looks like you have a good parent that loves you and supports her child. That parent that yelled at you probably thought they were doing the same thing…standing up for their kid. That doesn’t excuse their maltreatment of you.

By: Renegade Crone

Renegade Crone — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 03:17:47 +0000

That’s what life is all about. Learning from our experiences, especially the NEGATIVE ones. Who the hell learns when all things are positive? We just pat ourselves on the back and move on. Negative actions and feelings are the backbone of growth and we always have the choice of growing or just blowing the whole thing off. It’s your CHOICE TO GROW that makes me proud of you and that ensures the worst part of yourself is not the primary part of yourself. Your own acknowledgement that you had not been your best at that time will be what makes you wake up tomorrow a better person.
I love you,
Mom