From Mocha Momma: I hope you all enjoy this guest post from an anonymous participant in Her Bad Mother’s Betchfest. Read on at your peril.
BITCH OF THE MONTH CLUB
My Boyfriend’s Ex Thinks I’m Evil
by
“Not-the-Momma”
Dear My Boyfriend’s Ex,
News flash:
You-all broke up three years ago. It’s a little late for all this drama.
You want My Boyfriend to meet and go out and talk with you? What? Why now? Maybe because you just kicked your new boyfriend out of the house, so you don’t have anyone else around to torture with your constant drama? Oh, you say you’re getting a lawyer?
Oh no, you’re suicidal? You keep calling My Boyfriend from your car, and say you want to drive off the road, and then talk a bunch of scary shit about your gun collection?
Take a chill pill, lady. It’s not your ex’s problem any more. It’s not mine either.
You say that, because you’re afraid I will steal your son’s love and pretend to be his mother, I’m “not allowed” to be at My Boyfriend’s house when your son is there. Which is half the time, which is half my life!
Guess what! It’s not up to you to make the rules!
How come I’m not yelling this at you over the phone right now?
I’m never afraid of anything, but I’m afraid of you. Because I am thinking of your child. Your son needs his mother. I’m NOT his mother. YOU ARE.
Just because I make him a damn hamburger now and then and drive his butt to school, and treat him as decent as I would any other kid who didn’t ask to be in the center of trouble, you think I’m stealing his love? And so it makes you sick with fear inside so you do crazy stuff, and you can’t work? What?
I don’t want you to kill yourself, or be so crazy.
I want you to be there for your son, who loves you and needs you!
I want you sane, for him and for his sake!
Pull it together, dumbass!
I offer to talk. And to figure out what would help you feel better about the situation. Because you know I have a motherfucking backbone, and you don’t know my weak spots like you know My Boyfriend’s, you won’t play. You won’t talk to me at all!
You don’t know what the word negotiate means. There is no “negotiate”, for you, only emotional blackmail.
You push it and push it, and throw all this shit, and tantrum after tantrum, and then back off as soon as it comes down to anything serious enough for the Law. Thank God you have some boundaries. But you act like a spoiled brat. I’m so sick of it!
I feel sorry for the emotional pain you are in. Guess what though? I didn’t cause that pain, and I can’t fix it. My Boyfriend didn’t cause it either. He can’t fix it. It is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. You’re a grown up. In fact last time I checked, we’re all 45 years old which is enough time on the planet to have a clue how to live life vs. how to fuck it up.
Meanwhile, I’d like to see My Boyfriend! It’s your (ex)husband I fucking stole, not your child! Get it straight! But you know what, I’d also like to see his child, who I miss a lot — you know, the one I’m definitely not the step-momma of, because if anyone ever called me that you would go completely postal!
My God!
Are you on drugs or what? What is your damn problem, woman!
Fucking shoot yourself or get a lawyer!!!
Or, here is a better option, grow up and move on with your life!
This has been a Guest Bitch Post, hosted graciously by Mocha Momma and Her Bad Mother. Thank you and Good Night.
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And I thought I had drama in my life!
Wow! That’s really a sad story but all too common. Were I your boyfriend, I would get the law involved and seek custody of my son. The woman will do something stupid one day and the wrong people will be dead.
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Aren’t broken families the shizzle? Good times. The danger seems to be that this woman is grieving and emotionally, trailor-parkily-unstable. She sounds like she might be a little Thelma -and-Louise-on-crack-crazy and if you’re not looking for it, you might be in the line of fire. People who are emotionally messed up on grief tend to do some stupid stuff. It looks like this woman might be on the verge. Revenge is a beeatch! Beware.
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Well damn.
Marias last blog post..My Decision, Dammit.
Wow! She certainly had a lot to get off of her chest. And really she didn’t *steal* anything. Baby Momma needs to get over it and move on with her life.
Renee aka MekhisMoms last blog post..Friends – Bloggers and Real Life
Wow. Wow. And wow.
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I loved hosting this for my guest poster. All I can do is offer support in this place and hope that getting this all down in one place was helpful enough to put some of the hurt to rest.
Thanks for being nice to my guest, folks.
What a tough place to be in. The ex is clearly not rational… thank goodness “Not The Mama” has a backbone. Good on’ya!
Thank you, it did help just to vent about it, because I’m trying to be so steady to all the people involved and not bad mouth her to all our social circle. Mocha Momma’s reminder to me to have patience with her was especially helpful. It’s really all I can do, just keep on being steady in myself and a decent person. But that includes, of course, not escalating her drama!
Wow! Loved the post. Although my ex-wife has never said anything about suicide or physical harm, some of the sentiment is the same. My girlfriend will always be just that. My girlfriend (or whatever stage of the relationship we pursue). A loving adult with whom my kids spend quality time. Just like their grandmother, aunts or uncles. I’ve made it clear to them that they will only have one mother. And if their mother ever realizes the truth in that, we will all be better off.
Loved the post!!