Comments on: Dancing With Maddie

By: Dana

Dana — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 04:26:01 +0000

Kelly, this is so touching. I don’t know how I missed this post until now, but it doesn’t matter. Your words are loving and kind, filled with emotion and raw honesty. It doesn’t get any better than this — there’s no other way to describe what your feeling and thinking than you have.

I wish I had some magical advice to help you navigate this. All I can offer is a smile and a nod and a hug from afar.

I don’t know much about adoption, other than what I’ve read and heard from others, but it sounds like you and Maddie are doing what feels right to you both.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 18:25:08 +0000

We have a very, very similar situation in my husband’s family right now! I’m excited for you both!

By: Mocha Momma » Vulnerable

Mocha Momma » Vulnerable — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 13:02:44 +0000

[...] unclear to me what happens when I try to explain this dance I’m doing in reuniting with the daughter I placed for adoption 21 years ago. The most common joke I make [...]

By: CC

CC — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 22:16:04 +0000

I find it more than just a coincidence that I recently wrote about my dance with adoption and fertility. Although from the other perspective (as the adoptive parent).

Although this is the 1st post I’ve ever read of yours, I think I was meant to be here and subscribe to your blog!

PS: I’m a former High School teacher and current Speech Pathologist in an elementary school

By: Spring

Spring — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 22:29:41 +0000

How wonderful for both of you and if I were to be honest, I’d have to admit I’m a bit envious. My newest daughter joined our family through adoption at age 10 and has no living biological relatives. How I wish for her that she had some connection remaining.

No matter what the result, be certain that it matters to your daughter very much that you are alive, tangible, available. Very much.

Your honesty is beautiful. I’m new to this blog (came from anti-racist parent) but I’ll be back. Thanks for sharing.

By: A

Tue, 18 Nov 2008 19:55:55 +0000

So moving and well written, and so painful to read. 24 years ago I made a very different decision. Even though I know I wouldn’t have the life I do now — a life I love — if I hadn’t made it, it’s still painful. I’m wishing all of you the best.

By: BotchedExperiment

BotchedExperiment — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 18:19:46 +0000

867-5309 give me a call.

Only 3 guys!?

When I look back at the decisions I made as a younger person I’m simultaneously horrified and gratified. In your cse, you made a horrible decision, then you made a great decision, then you made an impossible decision, which only required complete bravery and would require about 20 years of maturation before you could come to terms with whether it was a good or bad choice. As you’ve indicated, you look back (justifiably) with shame, but you should also look back with pride and joy that you also made a couple great decisions.

Ultimately, I feel like I haven’t made decisions at all, but things just kind of happened to me. As such, it seems there weren’t choices, just reality. The choices were what happened, not what I chose. And yet, I was/am responsible.

Besides, when I look back at that young Botched, it doesn’t even seem like the same person. The DNA is the same, but the soul has changed (not to mention the gut).

By: Christine

Christine — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 23:14:05 +0000

Yea for the both of you!

Oh, and a dear friend of mine (who specializes in adoption reunification) has written a book called “Courageous Blessing,” written for adoptive parents of a child searching for and finding their first family. Her name is Carol Demuth. She works for Buckner in Dallas, TX. She’s a wealth of information and can give info on other resources, as well, that helps the whole triad during reunification: 1-866-236-7823

Tell her Christine sent you!

By: Wifey's House

Wifey's House — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 00:31:58 +0000

Wow. How touching, honest and real. Hope your gliding across the dance floor… smiles.

By: elly

elly — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 19:10:05 +0000

As an adoptive mother, I can not tell you how scary that dance is from this side of the ballroom.