Imagine, if you will, that my best friend sends me an invitation to her wedding. Imagine, too, that she lives across the country and there is an entire year before the event. Naturally, I’m going to look at the calendar and check to see if I can make it. Next, I’m going to assess whether or not I’m in need of a new dress and shoes. Then, I’m going to start writing letters to family members and friends and the occasional neighbor to see if they’d like to sponsor me. You know, pay for my airfare, hotel, and possibly pay for some new clothes for me to wear while I’m there. Then, I’m going to mention that I’d love a new DSLR camera and a bigger, better laptop on which to download the pictures because this MacBook I’m using actually belongs to the school district I work for and hey! It’d be great if THEY could pay for it all and give it to me for FREE. All I would have to do is mention them in my card that I give the bride and groom for their wedding present. While I’m at it, perhaps I could get Williams and Sonoma to sponsor a gift. Something really nice and in the price range of $300 or so and, oh, what the hell, I’ll just ask for two of them so that the new couple could enjoy one and so could I! This is a genius plan, right?
You see, bloggers, this is a ridiculous notion. I have a whole 12 months to plan for this wedding. In the meantime, I will have to continue to pay my bills, keep up with my car insurance, buy groceries, and deal with the same financial issues as everyone else. We even have a word for this. It’s called R-E-S-P-O-N-S-I-B-I-L-I-T-Y. If, by chance, I’m unable to afford such things then the conclusion I come to is that I simply cannot go.
Asking for a sponsor on the very post that BlogHer tells us that next year’s conference is in New York City is beyond low. Shame on you.
But I understand why you did that. You saw lots of women do it this year and get away with it. But really, have they? In every circle of women in which I was included in a conversation we were appalled at your behavior. Your lack of shame in striking a pose and declaring that your head-to-toe outfit was sponsored by so-and-so. In fact, my response to that was to do my best model pose and exclaim, “This, ladies? THIS was sponsored by Goodwill and hand-me-downs.” It’s just that I can’t help myself when you act so outrageous.
The onus is on us as a community to fix this. As a community, I was excited that I got to interact with companies this weekend. INTERACT. Which meant that I didn’t grab free swag and leave a party as soon as I collected some loot. I had a conversation with the folks from Microsoft who gave me new information about how to use their new interface and answer my questions. Did they shove crap in my hands? No way. They respectfully cared about me learning something new. Not getting something new.
Obligations from companies who want to see us use their product are at an all time high. Those of us who were sympathetic to the free stuff did our level best to come up with a way to re-use it. Would a hotel employee want this free swag? Could I convince people to give me products that I can take back to my highly impoverished high school and put in the hands of teenagers? While that’s a good intention, companies, it’s not what you wanted. You wanted your product in my hand and you want me to use it and love it and share it. Right? Unless I’m making a poor assumption about that, Mr. and Mrs. Corporate Sponsors, you’re going to have to come up with a way to connect better with me. I’d like to see that happen because the alternative is that you don’t hand out free stuff at all. (As an aside, I don’t expect you to give me expensive products like cameras and those of you who expected that? I’m looking at you.) (Another aside: As I’m looking at you I’m rolling my eyes at you, Greedy McNeedy.)
For some reason, it’s as if we pandered to the lowest common denominator this year with some attendants at BlogHer acting entitled and privileged and like their entire reason for being centered on getting free stuff. I’ll take responsibility here and use the pronoun “we”. That’s because I’m a part of this community and have even signed the pledge to Blog With Integrity. But I did this to write. I only started a blog to write. That’s been the passion all along. If you think you can start a blog and make money right away then you’re doing it wrong. Not just wrong. You’re doing it pathetically and you’re making a poor reflection on the writers.
So, companies? Take all that and learn from it. If you do better, we will do better. Having a better plan helps us all in the long run and we can make better informed decisions about products and things we’d normally purchase.
Or not purchase.
You know. Because maybe we don’t have the money for something and will have to do without.
July 27, 2009 @ 10:56 am | Filed under Adrenalized, BlogHer, Brain Swamp, Classless | Permalink | Comments (100)
jodifur Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:00 am
I’m a little bit in love with this post.
Mir Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:02 am
I love you.
That is all.
Lara Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:04 am
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. Thank you for this – it needed to be said and you said it so well.
Catherine Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:04 am
Smackdown. Not even a standing eight count.
All this, that you describe? Glad I wasn’t there to see it. But rather than deter me from attending next year, it encourages me to attend, next year – to do my little, non-materialist part to even the balance.
And to hang out with the incomparable @mochamomma, of course! And @{insert names of any number of bloggers with integrity}… and etc.
Motherhood Uncensored Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:06 am
What I find fascinating is that this year, I thought the PR from the PR folks was great, mostly because it was completely limited to the expo hall. Last year, I was being approached non stop by PR professionals.
This year, it was bloggers coming up to you with barrels of swag and press cards and requests for your own cards for giveaways. And honestly, most of them were at really inappropriate times.
I think I have less tolerance for it because a) bloggers should know better and b) I know some of these companies and I’m really sad that they paid money to be represented so poorly.
Being sponsored at a conference is very much like being a spokesperson. That job should not be taken lightly. You reflect on the sponsor.
Dove should be banging down your door, beautiful.
Jennyalice Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:06 am
thank you for this post.
MarathonMom Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:06 am
Well said!
KBO Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:07 am
Um, love ya, mean it. One of biggest regrets of this year was not getting to hang out more.
chris Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:12 am
Thunderous applause from me.
Love you.
Justice Jonesie Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:12 am
this is crazy! but I’m not surprised. thanks for this post.
Julie @ The Mom Slant Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:15 am
Thank you for taking the sledgehammer approach, as my pre-BlogHer “registry” post was apparently taken as a great idea by some (instead of as the gentle nudge toward reality I intended).
Sadder than ever that I didn’t get to ogle you this year, but ridiculously excited that I will be working with you on Brand About Town.
CatrinkaS Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:15 am
Exactly right. I have such a small little corner of the blogosphere and, while I would love more readers, the whole materialistic aspect is a bit freaky to me. And a lot insincere.
I am small, and my impact minimal – but I clicked right over to your integrity link – and signed.
The whole blogging thing can leave you so exposed – I hate the idea of being corporate bait. Especially since it implies you will be gobbled up in the process.
kim/hormone-colored days Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:17 am
Great post. However, on this point: Your lack of shame in striking a pose and declaring your head-to-toe outfit was sponsored by so-and-so.
Um, didn’t the BlogHer founders to that Very. Same. Thing. Up on stage, projected out to 1,000 bloggers in the audience? That + the mention of a make-up sponsor on behalf of these very wonderful and successful women was tacky! If our leaders and role models in the blogging community can shill like that why can’t Jane Blogger from SmallTown USA?
MammaLoves Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:17 am
I’m more than a little in love with you for this post.
Writing and relationships. That is what it is all about to me. I have developed wonderful relationships with writers AND PR people alike–but never because of their swag.
Manners people. Get some manners.
April Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:20 am
Last year, I was sooo envious of all of the women who were at Blog Her ‘08.
This year, I’m not at all upset that I didn’t get to go.
I feel bad for the people behind BlogHer, the sponsors, the attendees, the panelists, anyone who had their experience ruined because a handful of “Mommy bloggers” forgot how to act amongst grown ups.
UpsideUp Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:21 am
Girl, I have such post envy right now. Perfect perfect.
Still? That ass smack in the lobby was a good one, even though it was sponsored. I’m just sayin.
Redneck Mommy Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:21 am
I just fell further in love with you.
Thanks for keeping it real. On your blog and face to face.
Now go phone your mama and tell her to adopt me.
Dawn Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:22 am
Unbelievable. I wouldn’t think for a minute to shop for a sponsor to a conference. That is frickin’ insane. It’s like those people who sell the naming rights to their children or have their own wedding sponsored. Where is our self-respect? UGH!! Infuriating.
Well Said. You Rock. Maybe I’ll make it BlogHer ‘10 and finally get to meet you–even though we only live under two hours apart.
Tutugirl Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:23 am
Amen. I understand that some people get sponsored for things, but that’s not what blogging is about. The more bloggers act like money grubbing whores instead of a community of thoughtful individuals the less of a voice we all have in raising legitimate concerns to the companies that care about our community.
I also wish there were a better way to target the swag/PR or at least recycle it. I don’t need baby food or a little kid’s book. I would have loved to have had the option to choose to donate it to a school, a shelter, a military family or anyone else who really could have used it. A company initiating that kind of option would certainly elevate them in my eyes, and I would remember that when I get to the point where I DO need those things, or have a friend in need of a recommendation.
Tina Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:31 am
Amen. You put what I have been thinking into words much more eloquently than I could. I am too much of a loser to everbe invited, much less sponsored to blogher, but it seemed, from what I have heard and read, to be a gift grabathon. Not sure this is what blogher was supposed to be about at all.
annettek Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:33 am
Love this. Unfortunately those who really need to read it probably never will, or if they did wouldn’t even recognize themselves in it.
Cynthia Samuels Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:38 am
Oh my love Kelly. As usual you are the one! Even for someone who wasn’t there (damn!) your post said so much. NOT that I’m surprised. If I had a nickel for every time I’ve commented here on how wonderful you are, I’d be a rich little blogger even w/OUT sponsors. Since I spent most of my life in journalism, the whole idea of sponsors is kind of weird to me. How can you cover mercury on toys if toy makers sponsor you? For example.
Anyway K I love you and one of the biggest bummers of not being there was not getting my annual hug. I might have to fly out to your school and demand one on the intercom!
Kristabella Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:38 am
Word! I just love you!
I don’t have a ton of money and BlogHer is a bigger expense for me. But I wouldn’t ever consider being sponsored. I go to see friends and make new ones. I want to be ME and REAL, the person that I am on my blog. And I don’t want anyone ever wondering if something I said was genuine or if I was being paid to do so. That is SO not the point of blogging.
And I agree with Tutugirl above about doing something with the swag. I know last year BlogHer had a recycling room, but that’s never open on Sunday when I’m packing and going through my swag bags.
She Likes Purple Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:38 am
I’m just so surprised all these companies could AFFORD to give away so much stuff. Recession, schmecession.
Poppy Buxom Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:38 am
I saw the comments to the post announcing BlogHer10 and thought the top of my head would blow off. I’d heard about the swag hags–thankfully, I didn’t actually witness any of that behavior–but begging for sponsorship over a year in advance? Just throwing out a generic query to anyone who happens to be reading the announcement? Do they really think that’s how it’s done? Do they really think corporations are that easy? Or stupid?
Sheeeyit, why don’t they make a sign saying “Will Pimp Your Company for Airfare” and stand in the parking lot of the nearest Fortune 500 company headquarters. Or get a sailor drunk and steal his wallet. It would make the rest of us look better.
Lisa @ Crazy Adventures in Parenting Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:40 am
Whoa, do I ever have a girl crush on you, now.
Loved what you said here, AND on the Blogher ‘10 announcement post. Amen!
Darcey Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:41 am
I wholeheartedly agree. Do we all enjoy free stuff? Yes. And do we occasionally re-purpose free stuff if it is given to you and you don’t realize it’s there? Yes. (I’m looking at you, scads of 3M sponges, but hey! My mom and I both need to clean!) But there is no reason for people to blatantly be DEMANDING things to be given to them. We (should) attend conferences like these to meet women like us, different from us, and to connect with them and everyone in between.
Also? It was great to meet you after the Women of Color ROYO, and I will definitely be in touch about the College Board/SAT project.
Chookooloonks Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:44 am
Damn. I was hoping you’d wear my logo stretched all across your tits.
Just sayin’.
With love,
The other Heather
palinode Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:47 am
I was sponsored by the stank of late July Chicago.
Shash Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:47 am
I need to get back on a plane and fly back up there to kiss you for this. I guess I should check if we have enough frozen pizzas & spaghettios in the house.
(That wasn’t product placement, BTW. That is what my kids will eat when left to their own devices.)
Thank you for this, the awesome afternoon cruise, the fantastic company of your sister and the ride to my hotel. You inspire me to be a better person, and I’m sure I’m not the only one.
AJ Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:56 am
I really appreciate your post. You make some amazing points, and I am glad to see someone is making them. I was part of the “LobbyCon” losers so all I was able to do was hang out in the lobby & expo ALL DAY LONG. I was bored senseless. This was my first time at BlogHer and I was suprised to see people go apesh*t over the swagbags at parties. I was able to “win” a few cool products from sponsored people who tweeted that they were giving away items. I did not feel bombarded (though may have if I had been before). I am thankful for what I got, and will use what I want to use, and pass on what I don’t to people who may need it.
Kim Tracy Prince Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:56 am
At a party recently a woman came up to me and said “Kim, I need to make extra money so I want to start a blog. How do I do it?” She didn’t even know what a blog IS. I told her “don’t start a blog to make money.” I didn’t even punch her in the face.
Great post, it’s what I’ve been thinking all along. I got to almost every party late which meant there were less people and more opportunities to actually talk and meet and foster possibility. I did not meet YOU, but there were sightings…
Danielle Friedland, creator of Celebrity Baby Blog Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:57 am
I’m reposting my comment from blogher.com…
Amen.
If you take blogging seriously, you will find a way to get to NYC for this conference. And yes, it’s a conference, not a bachelorette party, so it’s a tax-deductible business expense. If you don’t have the money lying around, you should find a way and figure it out before expecting other people to do it for you. You will track flights on yapta.com, find 3 other women to share a room with and find some small luxuries you can give up so you can put the conference ticket on your credit card and pay it off by the time next summer rolls around. If you STILL can’t make it happen, THEN start coming up with ways that will bring value to your readers and potential financial supporters and pitch them. But if you think there are companies who are going to want to send you a fat check just because you ask, you’re one of the entitled mommy bloggers giving everyone else a bad name.
theprisonerswife Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 12:01 pm
LOVE THIS!
full disclosure: this was my first BlogHer & i WAS sponsored, but it was by chance & by a site for moms of color who wanting to make sure more brown mommies got to attend.
now…
like i said, this was my first BlogHer and i was amazed at the level of sponsorship going on. i had no idea this even went on, because for the most part, i don’t read most “mommy blogs” other than a select few. i was shocked because it seemed like a lot of people took pride in selling themselves, touting the fact that they got a free trip, and got free stuff, and when i went home to check their blogs, i could barely read the content because of the advertisements.
i, too, became a blogger because i love words. i love to write. i love interacting (there’s that word again), and meeting interesting and absolutely fascinating women. it was GREAT. i left most of my “swag” for the cleaning ladies at my hotel with a note of thanks. i think your post & others like it NEED to be said. there are many of us who feel this way & we need to make it known that the greedy don’t outnumber us.
BTW: LOVED, LOVED LOVED the things you said at the WOC breakout session! that whole conversation inspired a post: “Post Racial Promised Land?” http://bit.ly/10wTqK
Hilly Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 12:05 pm
Oh wow, please come snuggle up next to me right now and let me tell you just how awesome you truly are.
I have various reasons that I don’t go to BlogHer but this year one of the main reasons was due to a lack of moola. Getting divorced and moving cross country tends to do that to a girl and since I am an adult, who is responsible, I had to pick and choose vacations and trips. That being said, it never occurred to me to ask a company to sponsor me (not like my blog is big enough anyway but yanno).
People have the choice to start saving right now. It’s pretty simple, really.
Amanda of Shamelessly Sassy Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 12:21 pm
I just purchased my ticket to BlogHer 2010 in NYC. I was leaving this comment to see if you would personally be interested in sponsoring my underwear for the 4 days that I plan to be there (Thurs-Sun). That’s only 4 pairs of underwear; therefore, 4/5 of a cotton pack, if you choose to sponsor the undies from Wal-Mart classic 5 pack. I’m not picky about my drawers so long as they aren’t thongs. Again, the decision is up to you. If so, I will well represent your brand by tattooing your portrait on my left breast. Holla!
So the last sentence might’ve been creepy, but I’m sure you get my sarcasm. Also, I hope to see you in 2010. Sponsored undies or not.
Lori E Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 12:32 pm
Well I didn’t go, never even occurred to me to go.
That sort of behavior seems to come from the same women who will empty the Splenda packets (not sponsored) into their purses from the coffee setup in their rooms.
They will rush to the red blinking light for the special “gift” junk that they get for listening to some huckster sell his slicer dicer. Plus they will line up their kids to try and get one too.
This is not a behavior of necessity but of greed and entitlement. It is also a behavior that portrays women as juvenile and unprofessional.
Nothing wrong with sponsors but that can’t be all you are about. Sponsors are the gravy but you better be serving some meat and potatoes girl.
Just like being back in the preschool executive meetings 20+ years ago.
Joyce E. Davis Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 12:34 pm
I really enjoyed the post and the great comments. Love your passion. JD
IzzyMom Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 12:37 pm
You did it. Good for you!!!
And of course, I’m in agreement that the madness needs to stop. I think next year we will probably do The People’s Party much differently as none of us wants to perpetuate the hyper-acquisitive vibe of this year.
Mom101 Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 12:55 pm
I would comment but I am looking for a sponsor for it first.
But I will say for free that I love you and your Goodwill outfits.
Justice Fergie Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 1:00 pm
i usually try not to hate, but i saw those very comments and thought the very same thing.
this was my first blogher, so i didn’t know what to expect. the amount of free stuff given away was staggering and, yes nice, but absolutely unnecessary. again, i can’t compare it to the previous years, but it seemed like the substance of the sessions and the opportunities to connect were swallowed by the swag.
rest assured, the @blogalicious09 ladies are taking notes.
PS
Kim Moldofsky makes a great point re Elisa, Jory and Lisa announcing that their wardrobes were sponsored by Ann Taylor…
Amanda Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 1:02 pm
I was somewhat soured on attending BlogHer in the future based on some of the posts that I was reading over the past few days, but I am glad to see my faves (yep, you’re one of them) have instilled confidence in me once again! Perhaps, if I can afford it, I may grace the conference next year.
BTW, GW Boutique is a perfectly respectable place to shop!
Stefania Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 1:31 pm
You forgot about the part where you show up at the wedding reception in a t-shirt with “I got their wedding gift at Williams-Sonoma!” “stretched across (your) tits.”
That shit never gets old.
Marie Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 1:31 pm
LOVED this post. At times it was hard to find the distinction between who was a marketer and who was a blogger. I think next year you’ll see more charitable involvement and less emphasis and swag. At least that’s my hope!
solessence Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 1:32 pm
Great post.
This was my first BlogHer, and I was a bit dismayed in the days before that no one seemed to be talking about sessions. All of the talk was on sponsors and swag. Think about it – if you paid to get into the event, was any of the stuff you got actually free?
I’ve been to many conferences and exhibit floors (attendee and working). From a company perspective, you want people to be thrilled about the swag. You want there to be talk. But showing off your free ride is a different story from showcasing gifts that brought you to a conference, or helped you look your best during it.
It is no easy feat to put something together like this event, and BlogHer & sponsors knocked it out of the park with the amazing parties, swag, guest speakers, celebs and a place for bloggers to come and bond for a few days. Maybe this was a transition year, but hopefully in 2010 attendees will focus just as much on sessions to promote a learning/career & personal enhancing environment angle as much as swag.
Melanie @ Mel, A Dramatic Mommy Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 1:50 pm
Awesome post, but I’m still so conflicted about this. I didn’t think I’d be able to go to BlogHer this year. I was laid off two years ago and have been embracing being a SAHM. I have only just started seeing a little income from my blogging (so do not make enough to start deducting things as a business expense).
My husband surprised me with a conference pass for Valentine’s Day. What money we were able to save up for BlogHer had to go to unexpected car repairs, dentists and basically life in general. I received a scholarship to help with some of my expenses and I went after my sponsors on my own.
I was wearing clothes and jewelry from someone and I gave people I knew a few items of swag. I’m hoping to continue those relationships as 3 out of 4 of the sponsors I went to were products I used and believed in before BlogHer.
If it weren’t for my parents, Visa, sponsors, scholarship and my husband I wouldn’t have been there at all. I do take my blog seriously, don’t feel entitled to anything, I did share a room (lied to the hotel to get a lower rate!) and I’m continuing to pay for my airfare at a rate of 11%. Quite frankly, going to the conference put us in debt (but I’m so glad I was there and am glad to take on the burden!).
I can’t fault the people who went after sponsorship. I did enjoy the swag (recycled what I couldn’t use, left some in the room for the staff) and look forward to surprising my nieces with the toys and feeling good about not using any plastic bags at the grocery store. I guess all I’m saying is there are often two sides to a story. I agree with you and will start squirreling away my change for next year but take a little (OK a lot) of umbrage at the idea that I shouldn’t (don’t deserve?) to go to next year’s conference because I may need help to get there (that is in response to a comment on the BlogHer announcement post not to you Kelly).
(LOVED meeting you and feel the Women of Color ROYO was the best panel I went to).
Christina Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 1:53 pm
I do believe it was less about the companies this year, and more about the bloggers who set this negative tone. For once, I wasn’t being chased down in a hall by a PR person so he could get my card for any future endeavors they might have. You know, as long as I am a mommyblogger.
And I’m still totally in agreement with your idea for BlogHer10 Sumo. I would gladly save my money to rent those sumo suits and let people battle it out for swag bags.
Angella Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 1:54 pm
If my husband wouldn’t mock me endlessly, I would stand up right now and literally applaud you.
You already know I love you. Now I just love you more.
Donna Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 1:58 pm
You rock, Kelly. I’m saving for next year so I can tell you so in person
MeL Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 2:19 pm
Kelly: Just went over and read the announcement and the following comments. I assumed you were talking to one or two people but… wow… yeah. A whole plethora of peeps asking for sponsors? What does that even MEAN? Do I have to get a “Ford” tattoo on my butt or something? Is this like selling space on your back at a boxing match? I don’t follow the whole idea…. My closest thing to a sponsor is 5 foot ten, fathered my children, and puts out on a regular basis. (Also: He liked it so he put a ring on it.) (And you’re welcome for the ear worm.) But mostly he sponsors me by agreeing to watch our small, noisy people while I escape to fill my empty cup-of-sisterhood. I’m still a little sniffly that I had to miss this year due to financial issues, but that’s the way it goes. I go when the stars align and I can make it work. (So far just ‘08).
Plus it’s the new impetus for me to get off my buttocks and get rid of this pregnancy weight. New goal: Skinny Jeans by aught-ten. See you in NYC???
Which is to say, I’m securing my ticket for NYC. And you better save a spot on that bodacious booty for me to give it a resounding smack of love.
Meg Evans Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 2:34 pm
Daaa-yum! No sponsors? How am I gonna get to my brother’s wedding next year!?!
Forget Blogher, let’s just meet for drinks in NYC next year–I’ll buy the first round!
Boston Mamas Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 2:35 pm
K, you crack me up. You’ve also inspired me to write another post (GD you, I’ve already got two other BH posts in the queue…).
I actually did have sponsorship for BlogHer but you probably didn’t notice in the couple of times we interacted because I wasn’t a complete a**hole about it. I had sponsors that made sense for my site (parent oriented, organic) where the arrangements were more in the tile domain etc. than pushing random promotional materials on people. I did have some coupons for free stuff to offer to people, which I only handed out if I was talking to people about food and organics, or feeding kids, etc…
The point is it was relevant sponsorship and done in a way that wasn’t classless. It CAN be done. I’m a freelancer and my husband just left corporate so the sponsorship was helpful to get me there, but bottom line, even if I didn’t have a sponsor, I would have been there. It was important to me to connect with people in my community. I’ll be there next year too, with or without a sponsor. But always with class and integrity.
More forthcoming… -Christine
slynnro Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 3:50 pm
Well, I personally am in need of a vacation to the Maldives. As a person owning a swimsuit, I believe this is my right. Just like as a blogger, I’m owed a free trip to BlogHer.
Karen Sugarpants Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 3:52 pm
I’m still shaking my head. Great post. It’s embarrassing to see this behaviour and other things I saw at the conference.
Sra Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 4:02 pm
Well I’m not going to lick your feet over this post, though I do enjoy your writing very much. I get a little nauseous when commenters gush themselves all over bloggers, that’s all. All I can say is I’m glad blogher’s over this year so I don’t have to read anymore posts by bloggers who are Oh! So! Excited! but Don’t! Know! What! To! Wear! like, oh my gosh!
Desiree Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 7:46 pm
I don’t even know where to begin. Thanks for starters. I really felt I was the only one not rushing the door at every swag bag opportunity. I’ve been to blogher twice…and this year I felt nauseous. I have also heard of bloggers looking for sponsors for next year. I did get some great info on SEO and social media. I loved hanging out with other bloggers and feeling inspired by them. But the swag scene left a bad taste in my mouth. Anyway, well said!
Amber Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 8:10 pm
I thought the same thing about people trolling for sponsors on that BlogHer posting. People have no shame (and apparently no money saving skills).
The only reason I’m fairly certain I’ll attend next year is because I live in NJ and won’t need to fly. Even if someone wanted to sponsor me, I wouldn’t take it. I want to go to have the experience, not whore myself out for some random company.
churchpunkmom Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 8:44 pm
you? kick ass.
Avitable Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 8:47 pm
And here I was about to offer to sponsor you to go to BlogHer 2010 and all you’d have to do is tell the world that my ROYO panel was better than yours, and then wear a T-shirt attesting to said fact throughout the entire conference, plus whenever you heard the name “Avitable” mentioned, you’d have to shout loudly “Ayyyyymeeennnnnn” and raise your head to the sky.
Beth Terry aka Fake Plastic Fish Said,
July 27, 2009 @ 11:54 pm
I was a member of the “Green Team” that volunteered to help make the conference greener than it was last year. In some ways we succeeded. But now it feels like our efforts were negated by the overt commercialization of the conference and empasis on “”stuff” over relationships and content. I hope I’m wrong. We came up with a list of ideas for the swag bags that would be eco friendly and useful. The out of control swag situation that occurred was a nightmare.
My question is why we as women are so easily “bought” by companies. Where is our self-respect? My blog is part of my mission in life. Anything I promote has to be in line with that mission or it doesn’t go on my blog. My integrity is not for sale.
Michelle -WhiteTrashMom Said,
July 28, 2009 @ 12:28 am
Okay, I’ve stalked you for years online and then got see you for a total of 30 seconds in real life at BlogHer. You might not remember, I’m the chick that ran up to you saying “I’m WhiteTrashMom”!
This post TOTALLY rocks. Right on target, with a side of sass. Love it. Thanks for making me laugh out loud.
Robin Said,
July 28, 2009 @ 4:01 am
I am still torn about BlogHer.
I am not going to lie – I LOVE conferences. One of the best experiences I have had career-wise was at the NWMBA Conference two years ago – I met some amazing people and learned a lot about marketing myself and my skill set. And after hearing (via Twitter) that next year’s BlogHer is going to be in NYC makes it a HELLUVA lot cheaper for me to go as I only live an hour away. And everyone on Twitter sounded like they were having an AMAZING time in Chicago.
However, I still have a major issue with the commercialism of the whole thing. While I love shopping just as much as the next chick, I don’t need people pushing swag in my face to try and get me to buy things. I also would probably not appreciate the swag whores and (eventually) feel the need to say something to them, which would (of course) cause issues. And, while I do love conferences, I can’t get past the fact that BlogHer IS so expensive. While my employer probably would sponsor me (if I sold to them why my presence there would increase their business), I wouldn’t think of asking them for it because it’s my responsibility to pay, not anyone else’s.
So while I really want to go next year, a little voice inside of me is telling me to slow down and think about it first….and I don’t like that.
Caffeinated Librarian Said,
July 28, 2009 @ 7:10 am
Waaaaaaay back when I was in college, our marching band director had a favorite saying: “remember who you are and what you represent.” He said it all the time – at practices, before bus trips to away games, before home games, etc., etc. And the point of that was to remind us that, as a member of the marching band, EVERYTHING we did (both good and bad) would in some way reflect back on our organization and our school. This was particularly important to remember when, for example, you’ve been up since 5 AM, in uniform since 7 AM, it’s been raining since 7:30 AM and your white poly-wool uniform is nice and soaked, and some fans on the upper deck decide to vent their frustration at the play on the field by showering the band with open glass mini bottles, some filled with alcohol. “Remember who you are and what you represent” becomes REALLY important then because, while some folks *might* remember the fans’ actions, they sure as hell will remember YOURS if you lose your cool, no matter how provoked you feel.
Which brings me back to swag. Because it is provoking, isn’t it? The idea that other people are getting something and you’re not…and who are they? How are they and their blog better and more deserving than you and your blog? It’s so easy, in that kind of competitive climate, to think that if you don’t grab for whatever you can get now, now, now, then you’ll be acting like a fool and missing out on opportunities that may never come back again.
But life is all about cause and effect. If you want to make your blog your job, that’s fine, but then you have to ACT like a professional at a blogging conference…because everything you do and say will reflect on you as a professional, your blog as your product, AND your sponsors (who, if they have any sense, will only work with bloggers who consistently ACT like professionals…I mean, it’s not like there’s a shortage of bloggers out there or anything).
If your blog isn’t your job that’s fine too and it means you have more leeway in how you act, but it doesn’t let you off the hook completely. I can’t help but think that part of the disconnect on this topic is that so many people view blogging as something that they do that is somehow separate from how they live the rest of their lives…which is bull, in my opinion. Because we all represent something all the time, whether we’re bloggers or not – we represent the things, ideas, and people who matter to us. Blogging just gives us more visibility than folks who don’t, it doesn’t change what we’re entitled to, how we should act, or the fact that people will judge “who we are and what we represent” by those actions.
Elaine Said,
July 28, 2009 @ 7:58 am
This post is wonderfully stated and needs to be plastered all over the place. If I was a “stumbler” I would do it but I’m not really into all that stuff. I just like to blog.
I was lucky enough to afford to go to BlogHer this year. And yes, I will start saving for next year too…
Tara Said,
July 28, 2009 @ 10:11 am
Wow another great post!
I signed up for BlogHer a while ago and forgot it about. After reading this I went over and filled out my profile
I’m still not quite sure how to use it yet…
Hope you can make it to one of the local Spfld Bloggers meet-ups sometime
AMomTwoBoys » BlogHer: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly Said,
July 28, 2009 @ 10:17 am
[...] in Chicago. Come hell or high water, I’ll be in New York next year. I’m going to take MochaMomma’s advice and start saving now. I suggest you do too! Trust me, you won’t want to miss out on ALL [...]
trayday Said,
July 28, 2009 @ 10:32 am
Hey sister,
Thought you’d be interested in this: http://gawker.com/5324636/the-low-low-price-of-a-bloggers-soul-a-pair-of-plastic-shoes
BlogHer recap roundup » mamikaze Said,
July 28, 2009 @ 10:32 am
[...] MochaMomma [...]
(Your sponsorship here) « ConfessionsOfAnITGirl.com Said,
July 28, 2009 @ 12:04 pm
[...] have to think about much. Right now, it’s standing out, not just in my mind, but on the posts of many who attended the [...]
rachel-asouthernfairytale Said,
July 28, 2009 @ 12:53 pm
I am now doubly, even triply (not a word) sad that I didn’t meet you at BlogHer because this post has me in love with your writing. This was so fabulously written, truly sad that I didn’t have the opportunity to meet you.
schmutzie Said,
July 28, 2009 @ 12:53 pm
Right on.
mayberry Said,
July 28, 2009 @ 8:04 pm
Holy crap. I knew it was bad, but I didn’t know HOW BAD until I saw those comments on the blogher post. I think I need a breath mint now.
Cyndi Said,
July 29, 2009 @ 8:22 am
First a thank-you, I read this post before I went to my kick-boxing class and was half way through the torture before I even noticed because my mind was on this post. I am a bit like a community theatre player trying to understand the dirty little dealings of Hollywood. I have been a fan of yours for two years. On some days at my business you were my only contact with the outside world. You always gave me something to think about, laugh about, and sometimes cry about. I thought this was a remarkable thing. As I have been unemployed for the first time in my life, I decided to write down my thoughts and share them with my daughters through Facebook. My reasons for doing this are many;
1. I needed to feel I had accomplished something in my day;
2. I believe in the power of the written word;
3. I had too much clutter in my brain and this was a way of sorting through it;
4. Somehow, I could find answers or direction in my own stories;
5. I wanted to be heard.
Never did it enter my mind that this was a money-making exercise. I am not even on anyone’s blogroll. Truly, I don’t even know how that happens. I write because it gives me satisfaction, it matters to me. I want to believe that maybe my daughters will learn something about me they didn’t know. You were my teacher. I think there will always be people in this world who are motivated by rewards and not personal satisfaction.
I thought about this very fact last night as I watched the news of Michael Jackson’s doctor and his ability to ignore everything that a doctor stands for in exchange for $150,000 per month. I applaud your efforts to make this little corner of the world different, and for lots of woman like myself the lesson has been taught. Keep teaching
Heather B. Said,
July 29, 2009 @ 12:07 pm
I’m sure that Avitable wouldn’t mind having his sponsorship for you plastered across your tits. Think about it.
You know how I feel hence the joking around. And I’m not going to make grand pronouncements of my love for you because that would be like announcing that grass is green. No shit.
Liza Said,
July 29, 2009 @ 12:12 pm
As always, well said! I went back to the announcement post and was BLOWN AWAY.
Not only did people whine for sponsors more than a year ahead of time, but most of them also did it in the most entitled tone imaginable. I don’t want to look for a sponsor, I don’t want to approach a business and ask them to sponsor me, I just want someone, anyone!, to pay me to go to a super cool conference full of amazing women (and some amazing men too).
It makes me want to invent Borat-inspired fake and outrageous organizations that offer to sponsor people, just to see what they say.
Corporate Babysitter » Blog Archive » The inevitable commodification of mommy bloggers Said,
July 29, 2009 @ 5:11 pm
[...] There’s more from other attendees. [...]
Miss Britt Said,
July 29, 2009 @ 5:25 pm
Fuck I love you.
Moms Who Blog - a news journal about mothers active in social media » Said After #BlogHer09 Said,
July 30, 2009 @ 8:03 am
[...] Mocha Momma: “Sponsor Me!” Smackdown “So, companies? Take all that and learn from it. If you do better, we will do better. Having a better plan helps us all in the long run and we can make better informed decisions about products and things we’d normally purchase.” [...]
Tatiana Said,
July 31, 2009 @ 6:36 am
So, I just wrote a post about the same thing last night, only it seems that you said it both first and better. I’m in absolute agreement with you. And, it looks as though I’ll be following your blog now too — judging by the number of comments you’ve gotten, seems I’m late to the party!
kaydee Said,
July 31, 2009 @ 7:16 am
I didn’t go to BlogHer but have watched and learned from all this posting. One thing I have seen is that the established bloggers–those of you with hundreds of comments and who have the traffic seem to be extremely unhappy with those new bloggers who are trying to “make it.” These new bloggers are trying to do the stay at home mom thing that you have been doing. I couldn’t believe one established blogger living in Boston (a very expensive city) stating that she felt that advertisers needed to be more “selective” in which bloggers to support. Selective would, I imagine, mean her blog and those of her more established friends that have gotten the traffic and know the ins and outs of give-aways and contests. She had quite a give-away site that she must be supporting her very well. I hate to shatter the love fest here but this does seem to be the haves dissing the have-nots.
kaydee Said,
July 31, 2009 @ 7:21 am
By the way, shame on Danielle who sold Celebrity Baby Blog to Time Warner and I’m sure made a mighty large amount of money for giving anyone a hard time about accepting sponsorships or funds….Look these are hard times and every mom wants to stay home with their children!–and wouldn’t we all like to be like Heather and be able to have our blog support our husband too! http://www.answersformoms.org
Nichelle Said,
July 31, 2009 @ 1:09 pm
I love you…there’s really nothing more I can say…i love a woman that tells it like it is, puts all the #swaghags in check, and teaches a lesson/drops some knowledge & food for thought at the same time…you’re my hero…I miss you!!!!!!! Put in NOW to take that friday off & get to Atlanta!!!!!
Mocha Momma Said,
July 31, 2009 @ 2:52 pm
kaydee – Your second comment went to moderation because you left a link. I’m clarifying that lest you think I deleted comments. I don’t do that unless it’s really nasty.
But I do feel like I need to respond to your statements.
First, I don’t get hundreds of comments. They average about 20 per post and that always fluctuates after BlogHer. My issue with those new bloggers trying to “make it” is that they want to do so without content. They want to start a review blog or get sponsors without having established that they can even write. It’s not an overnight thing. I have been doing this for several years now and if you read the post above this you’ll note that there are other issues for women of color involved in this money-making/reviewing/being sponsored thing.
Secondly, I’m not sure what you mean about staying home. I don’t stay home and I have never stayed at home. If these women want to stay at home that’s certainly fine, but they can’t have a successful blog right away if they aren’t willing to do the work of writing. I have a full time job that supports me and my blog is secondary to that.
Finally, I can only guess you are speaking about Heather Armstrong and her blog, Dooce. But to answer your question, no, I would not like to be like her because my career and passion are in education. It’s what I studied to practice and my career there far outweighs any decision to stay home and be the writer that Heather has become. Sadly, that is a target for people who are jealous of what she’s achieved. Would I trade what I do for a living for her life? Absolutely not. These were my choices and I’m happy with them. Incidentally, we both have to deal with a lot of criticism: me from the public which I serve in a school and her from the public which loves to read and detest her.
The “haves” are those writers who HAVE been writing and they HAVE been keeping true to the integrity of editing and thoughtful posts. The “havenots” are those people who HAVE NOT put in the hours of practicing prose and they HAVE NOT seen fit to practice discernment about what it is they want to get out of writing a blog which, unfortunately for some of them, means that they don’t recognize the serious business of writing.
Maybe your argument fell apart at the very beginning of your comment when you used the word “established” because, quite frankly, that’s what this all comes down to if you want to be taken seriously. I see from your blog that you’re well on your way as you’re sponsoring your first giveaway. Congratulations, but keep writing content. Nothing else will matter very much without that.
lettergirl Said,
July 31, 2009 @ 3:00 pm
I have lots of intelligent, reasoned supporting arguments to make here. But um, I’m just going to go with I love you, ma’am. See you in NYC. I will be selling plasma and eating beans to get there, but I will be there. (Uh, no bean companies need to see that as a sponsorship opportunity. Thanks)
moosh in indy. Said,
July 31, 2009 @ 3:05 pm
Sorry Kaydee-I have to go with Mocha Momma on this one.
There are tacky people out there who started sites just to get “stuff.”
Be it attention, products, notoriety, bragging rights.
Thankfully those of us who have been doing this because we love writing and community more than we love stuff know that these people who are doing it for all the wrong reasons will fizzle out when marketers and companies become sick and tired of their all drama no content gimme gimme attitude.
I for one am embarrassed for some companies who have lent their name to bloggers who have made fools out of themselves and for the ugly mess and stereotypes they are going to leave behind.
Carolyn Online Said,
July 31, 2009 @ 3:05 pm
So um…should I be happy or sad that the only PR person who shoved anything in my face this weekend in Chicago was the chick with the pee standing up funnel thing and she approached me like ten times which means I probably spent the whole night looking like I really needed to hit the head and really, no I don’t want your funnel thing because while I can see the logic in it I guess if you really WANT to be able to pee standing up I just can’t get over the fact that it’s reusable and therefore would have to go in my pocket *after*. Wow, sorry got off topic there.
Lisa @ Unfiltered Insanity Said,
July 31, 2009 @ 3:29 pm
MochaMomma—You, I’m in love with. I’m a “newbie” blogger or a “Have-Not,” if you will, so I thought I’d give some perspective to some of these people who are dissing both the haves and the have nots.
I didn’t go to BlogHer. Couldn’t afford to. Sure, I entered a contest here and there to try and go, but I didn’t win and I certainly didn’t expect to. I had a hard time even getting someone to let me do a review/giveaway for my 100th post. Why? Because I’m A) not a review/giveaway site and B) I’m not that established of a writer yet.
I did want to go to Blog Her. Quite a lot, actually. I was interested in meeting a lot of you ladies who’ve inspired my writing. I won’t lie and say I wasn’t interested in going to any of the parties or that I wasn’t enticed by some swag. However, it wasn’t my motivation for going. I knew that I could learn a lot about what it takes to make my blog better. I was excited to learn that. For now though, I will take my inspiration from my inspiring ladies who do have successful blogs.
So why did I start a blog? I started my blog to chronicle my new life as a SAHM. I HAD to be a SAHM. It was either that, or spend nearly $1500 a month in child care when my mom got sick. As I begun to rediscover my love for writing, it turned into a mix of comedy, memes, and just writing about things that I’m passionate about, such as sexual abuse, eating disorders, and God.
I won’t be attending next year’s BlogHer. I can either save up a million dollars (exaggeration, but only slight) to stay in a hotel in NYC for several nights, plus $100-200 for tickets, plus sightseeing money (b/c if I’s going to NYC, I’s going to see the sights and it wouldn’t even be my first trip to NYC!), plus I’d have to take my husband and get him Yankee tickets ORRRRRRR I can save to go see one of my oldest and dearest friends get married in Florida in the Spring. It’s a no-brainer for me, dears, my friend wins out! I don’t even care if you’re offended!
Now, not to pat myself on the back or say “Hey, Lisa, you are so down-to-earth!” but seriously people. Didn’t your parents ever teach you this thing called “decorum?” There is a way that you act in public! A way that you act at a party! A way that you act when you are in a PROFESSIONAL setting! I would be embarrassed to call myself a blogger in all seriousness and be involved in some of the tawdry dealings I have read about. I’m not sayin’ I’m just sayin’! I
Lisa @ Unfiltered Insanity Said,
July 31, 2009 @ 3:35 pm
What I forgot to say, is I can understand why people who have made a name for themselves don’t want the people who are just in it for “stuff” to ruin the sense of community in the blogging community. I, for one, am in love with the blogging community, in general.
Grace Davis Said,
July 31, 2009 @ 7:07 pm
I’d like to address the following:
“Um, didn’t the BlogHer founders to that Very. Same. Thing. Up on stage, projected out to 1,000 bloggers in the audience? That + the mention of a make-up sponsor on behalf of these very wonderful and successful women was tacky! If our leaders and role models in the blogging community can shill like that why can’t Jane Blogger from SmallTown USA?”
-and-
“Kim Moldofsky makes a great point re Elisa, Jory and Lisa announcing that their wardrobes were sponsored by Ann Taylor…”
BlogHer is a venture capital/privately funded company. It is not a non-profit or an NGO. BlogHer is a business and to acknowledge sponsorship in the creative fashion – pun intended – Elisa, Lisa and Jory did that morning was a professional courtesy. I myself have done this in my previous career in medical device/pharmaceutical research and development. On academic papers, I would cite co-authorships and/or include a note in the margin as to where the research funds originated. When presenting research at a scientific conclave, I would make a brief announcement in recognition of sponsorship and certainly add word of gratitude . Sadly, sponsors of research I worked on did not specialize in lovely apparel and cosmetics, to which I say, lucky Elisa, Lisa and Jory! And, they looked fabulous.
Conference fees are high, just as you said, Kelly. Tech conference fees are astronomical. The next O’Reilly conference, Gov 2.0, will cost you $1295 at early bird pricing. Standard price – $1495. Buying a ticket on-site – $1595. And? You have to be invited.
This may seem like a niche event to many, but O’Reilly conferences are premier events for the online industry and community, just as BlogHer is the online industry and community’s premier event for women. But, BlogHer’s fees are shockingly low compared to the dollar amounts quoted above. Why? Because of BlogHer’s many patrons.
My bottom line? What Jory said:
In 2009 sponsorship allowed more bloggers to afford this event in a really bad economy. (http://www.jorydesjardins.com/pause/2009/07/some-thoughts-on-blogher09-a-founders-and-a-bloggers-view.html).
This is hardly “tacky”.
If modeling Ann Taylor and Mary Kay in front of all of us helped to make that happen – in a recession, no less – then I say bravo and thank you, Elisa, Lisa and Jory.
Catherine Said,
July 31, 2009 @ 9:56 pm
And people ask me why I am such a fan of @MochaMomma and @GraceD… and I point them to their most recent comments, in this post, and say, “THAT’S why – at least, a tiny fraction of why”.
Rocks, I tellz ya, rocks. As are Elisa, Jory and Lisa, for staying true to the original mission and intent of BlogHer, by making conference attendance as accessible for anyone as it can be made. They keep the ticket prices low – and every year there are opportunities for people to attend for free, in exchange for some degree of work. I see that, increasingly, there are even travel sponsorships and contests to cover, not just the conference fee, but travel and accommodation costs too. In other words, short of picking you up from home, leaving one of their family or friends behind to {baby / house / pet / husband / wife / parent}-sit for you, and wiping your ass for you while at the conference… I’m struggling to see what MORE they could do to make it possible for anybody to attend.
People.
Elisa Said,
August 2, 2009 @ 8:23 am
This post is not only brilliant and well-written, but it actually speaks for the way many of us feel.
I liked that the brands were mostly contained in the PR hall this year, because you could choose if you wanted to check them out or not. And I think some of them did things right, like Picnik, that actually organized a fun activity, not just gave away free stuff. And the swag hoarders? Shame on them. My tolerance of this type of behavior is getting lower and lower. Mostly because I started realizing that their behavior reflects on us all. When a large number of bloggers behave in an ungrateful, greedy, shameless way, have unreasonable demands or whine about being burned out from writing on their reviews-only blog and team-up to shun PR people, when any of that and any other obnoxious thing happens, we all pay the consequences. And that is unacceptable. Because while everyone is free to do as they please, your “freedom” shouldn’t entitle you to do something that will hurt or damage someone else.
whall Said,
August 2, 2009 @ 7:14 pm
It comes down to O.P.P. (yeah you know me!)
Other People Paying.
It’s in our politics when politicians buy votes with promises to make peoples lives better with someone else’s money.
It’s in our healthcare when patients and doctor do too much care simply because insurance will cover it. And besides, they can smoke an eat themselves to death because either insurance or the government will take care of them.
It’s in our auto industry when people don’t care as much about how careful they drive because if they damage the car, a claim will take care of it.
It’s in our teenagers because they can have sex and create life and they’ll have assistance to take care of the kid.
It’s in the economy because when people make bad investments and lose their homes because they can no longer pay for a house they never should have even TRIED to buy, they get sympathy and bailouts and the people lending them the money is blamed instead of the greedy homeowners.
It’s one thing for a company to hunt down bloggers an approach them to work out a mutually beneficial relationship, but I’m with you on your disgust of expectation of sponsorship.
Entitlement is poison to the human spirit.
BlogHer ‘09 « Said,
August 3, 2009 @ 7:34 pm
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Lu Said,
August 7, 2009 @ 8:36 am
I am just now reading this post at the most timely time. I recently sent a message to the PR person who was sharing the features of one of the sponsored parties. I was giving her an honest assessment of how much I appreciated them doing this, as I saw it being rather generous considering what it was and I also told her how nice it was to see her at another conference and actually get to talk to her and hoped we could continue the conversation.
She responded back that the craziness of stealing swag had left a bad taste in the sponsor’s mouth and they were considering not doing it ever again. That deeply disturbed me, because I was genuine in my appreciation and pissed off at the people who had nothing good to say except they did not get the gift. Asses!
I expect nothing from them for giving them an honest opinion about their product and I am all about the relationships. I met a lot of PR and marketing people this time around and it was great building relationships that I hope will bring some attention to my cause of bringing art back to peoples lives as an everyday thing. Free stuff is great, but it is not everything. I could have sat in the Shutter Suite all weekend laughing at you making body part comments. Those moments were priceless.
jay Said,
August 7, 2009 @ 3:32 pm
Blogging is still such a tiny thing in the UK (I think). I know very few people who blog, and those who know I blog still often ask “but what’s the point?” and “Do you get paid?” and also “what’s to gain from it?”
It never even occurred to me to try to “get stuff” for blogging. I started blogging because I wanted to journal my life, and share it with anyone bored/stupid/insane enough to read. I actually think I’m too naive to blog, because I seem to miss so much, from my life, and other people’s lives.
But on hearing about blogher (again, something that feels like it deserves much more publicity over here) I thought it sounded PERFECT. Actually meeting the people who have deeply inspired me. The only thing I seek to take away is knowledge and reverence. I’m saddened by the greed that seems to be attached to blogher.
Posts like yours help keep it real for people like me. I hope many more people see your post and WAKE UP and smell the roses, before they go swagging and sponsor hunting for blogher10.
Oh and by the way? If I don’t meet you, expect me to knock the stalking up a notch. 3,500 miles is a long way to travel and not even meet you, dammit. Love yoo!
Stylin’ and Profilin’ at Blogher 09 « STYLEMOM Said,
August 8, 2009 @ 1:42 pm
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Mommy Bloggers Will Not Be Broken! Said,
August 18, 2009 @ 2:20 pm
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Mocha Momma » 2009: It’s Been A Whole Year, Has It? Said,
December 31, 2009 @ 8:45 am
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joesmithreally Said,
January 1, 2010 @ 11:24 am
I don’t know much about BlogHer, but I sure like your attitude toward this topic. Damn right. A “personal brand” is bad enough. Why through stickers all over yourself, a la NASCAR, too.
Also, howdy to you in Springfield, IL. I was born and raised to 18 on farm in Christian County. Lived in Springfield for a couple of years. Parents and siblings still there.
Anyway, you’ve got a new blog reader.
Ta.
joesmithreally Said,
January 1, 2010 @ 11:25 am
through? argh. throw.